Many parents tend to use scolding, or punishing to correct their children’s negative behavior. But such corrective measures may make the situation even worse. Instead, try something different.  How about using the following five languages of love to instill positive values in your children?

Gifts

Children feel good when someone gives them gifts.  Giving them birthday presents, surprise treats, a flower or stone you find outside, making them their favorite food, and shopping with them for a special gift is amazing way of making them happy.  But indulging them in these processes does not necessarily mean that the parents are encouraging them to be more materialistic or possessive.

Words of affirmation

Children also like for others to tell them they did a good job. Compliment and praise them aloud in front of others.

Physical touch

Hug your children often, hold their hands, kiss them lightly on their cheeks or forehead, give high fives, cuddle them, participate in physical activities with them, and read stories together on the couch or with them on your lap.

Acts of services

Children, like adult like it when people do nice things for them.  As such, help them with chores, school projects, drive them places, make them meals and snacks, practice sports together, check their homework, and pick them up on time from school and elsewhere.

Quality time

They also love to do things with you. For this reason go watch a movie with them, go out to eat and play a game. No matter what you do, give them your undivided attention. They often want to sit next to you or have you watch them while they’re playing.  Make eye contact with them, ask them about their day, pay attention to the details, plan special events/trips for their family, eat together as a family, read together and have consistent bedtime routine.