Understanding one's personality can be a big confusion when things do not seem clear. We often hear about extroverts and introverts, however, some people can relate to both of them.

“Almost belonging everywhere, yet not quite belonging anywhere.” If I start counting my friends, one hand would be more than enough. I can’t vibe with people easily. I find myself surely having good communication with new people if I have to, but you still would not know me. People who are close to me are very limited and those who are close, really know everything about my life and me. I often get asked if I am an extrovert or introvert, and honestly, I don’t know the answer to it. I love going out, having fun, exploring, and adventures, but only with my loved ones.  Maybe I fall in between extroverts and introverts; the particular word for which is “Ambiverts”. 

They say that I am quiet to which my inner reaction is “ask my best friend(laugh)”. A new person can find me different when time passes by and as we get close. It is not that Ambiverts like me have a double personality or so. However, holding back the loudness and too many opinions help in getting myself put together and understanding the other person. There are times where the introvert side just pops up out of nowhere and feels like shutting the world off. Being on my own and spending alone time with the things that I love like cooking, eating, reading, dancing, and listening to music makes me feel alive. Interacting and having deep conversations with close ones are important for my sanity. Not to mention that Ambiverts can rely on other people for happiness. I find it funny how I can relate to introverts as well as extroverts. I have heard people tell me that I am introverted whenever I am in a new environment with new people; however, my close ones never even think about me as an introvert. The ambivert personality works well when it comes to staying subtle and Zen. Ambiverts know when to trust someone and whom to trust. Extroverts often find themselves trusting people too easily which sometimes results in betrayal. On the other hand, introverts are on their own and never really get close to and open up to people. Trusting other people for introverts is a matter of a parallel universe. Adapting to the surroundings and getting along has helped me to step to new heights. 

Making plans is fun until the day of action comes. Seriously, the amount of indecisiveness that ambiverts have, can be recorded in the Guinness Book. “Do you want to stay home and relax?”- Yes! “Do you want to go out and have fun?”- yes! Don’t ask me. Ambiverts are the “Go to” person/place for many people, they are often on the giving side. However, they hardly find someone with whom they feel a connection and share every side of themselves. The heaviness that their heart carries sometimes is too heavy to walk with. Although they are open, they are very personal and need private space often, or else would suffocate in the crowd of people. Ambiverts are good at putting on a happy face and becoming a problem solver to others when their life is a total mess. 


Box text:  Ambiverts carry both the characteristics of extroversion and introversion. True ambiverts are rare! Some estimates put them at 20% of the population or less. “Your extroverted self makes outrageous decisions and your introverted self has to deal with the consequences.” “I just sit back and observe, that way I learn more”.