An Awaited Bhai Tika
Admired for her down-to-earth nature and intelligence, this beauty queen, who was crowned Miss Nepal World in 2010 at the tender age of 19, is none other than Sadichha Shrestha. She is one of the most loved Miss Nepal crown holder till date. This beautifu
The bond with your sibling may just be the longest relationship of your life, and the one that gives you as much grief as pleasure. Miss Nepal 2010 Sadichha Shrestha shares somewhat similar kind of relation with her two younger siblings Suvechha Shrestha (22) and Sauve Shrestha (17).
Sadichha is back in Nepal after a long educational stay in Bangkok. Two people visibly happy to have her home are younger sister Suvechha and younger brother Sauve. And this festive season we did not want to miss a chance to get hold of this beauty along with her siblings. Sadichha is very close with her siblings and has always been expressive about her emotions regarding them. Here this trio share with us their take on their sibling relationship.
Relationships with brothers and sisters are very precious. I probably will never be able to fully describe this relationship as I do not have a brother. But I wanted to know what the relationship is like, so I asked them to define their relationship.
Sadichha: With my siblings it is always fun. It is also like a roller coaster ride because sometimes you are really enjoying it and sometimes you just really hate it. Being the eldest one I know and realize that I should take care of them, and it is me who they look up to after my parents.
Suvechha: She is someone I look up to. Whenever I am feeling down she is always there for me.
Sauve: For me Sadichha di is like a root of a tree. We are the tree and she is the root. She is always there for our growth and care. Much like the way the root support a tree, she supports us in our lives.
When we were kids, our siblings might have been our worst enemies. They wore our clothes without asking, got jealous about our new stuffs, and the list is quite long. As much as they annoyed us when we were younger, there are many perks of having a sibling. So I asked these three, “What is the best thing about having siblings?”
Sadichha: You are never alone when you are with your sibling, and you have someone to share whatever you want. You can definitely talk to your parents, best friends and friends but I think siblings are at a level where you are more comfortable to share things with. It is also because we grow together, we know each other inside out. We know what kind of people we are, and what are our likes and dislikes. So in times of difficulties it is really handy to have siblings with whom you can share everything, and with whom you can cry with and laugh.
Suvechha & Sauve: You are never alone. You always have someone to fight with, someone to share your happy times with, and get help from when you are in trouble.
Do you have a younger brother or sister, and are you protective of them? It is pretty obvious that you are. It is just normal to be protective of your younger family members. But do not be over protective. They can make their own choices. As long as the choices are not overtly wrong they should be fine. I asked Sadichha the same question as she is the eldest sibling.
Sadichha: I am very protective of both of them. Especially in case of my sister because she is little shy. The relationship with both my brother and sister will now evolve as they have now become adults, and know more about life as they grow. Now when I look at them I also see the mistakes I made as a teenager, and exactly same mistakes they are making now. And sometimes I also realize that they have to make those mistakes. Just because I am the elder sister I should not stop them from doing things the way they want. Even if someone had told me not to do certain things when I was 17 – 18 I probably would have done them anyways. But then, what I can do now is, be there with them when they realize their mistakes later on and tell them it is all right, now that they have learnt a lesson from their mistakes we can all move along.
Did you grow up with any siblings at home? If you did, then you know – siblings tease each other, sometimes until mom or dad puts a stop to it. Sibling rivalry is common in families with more than one child. As I heard somewhere, the older ones are more prone to be bullies. In case of Sadichha’s siblings let us find out who bullied whom while growing up.
Sadichha: I think because I am the eldest I probably bullied both of them a lot (laughs). But in the sense that because I am the eldest sister I had to act as if I knew everything, as if I knew how things should be done even though I knew little about those things. But then my sister and brother also have their own unique ways of bullying and fighting so they are no less champions in bullying then myself.
Sauve: Both of them bullied me. When I was a small kid I was little chak – chakey and if I were to fight with Sadichha di, Suvechha di used to back her up and when I used to fight with Suvechha di, Sadichha di used to be her back support. They also used to tickle me. While one of them grabbed my hands and legs, and other one would tickle me.
Since last two years when I was not here for Dashain and Tihar I missed it a lot but they sent me photos and all of that so this year I am really excited for bhai tika.
We all love our siblings, but sometimes we secretly day dream about what it would be like to be an only child, with our own room all decked out with only our stuff, have our own privacy, and not have to share TV and computer, which often to constant arguments. Let us find out what they do not like to share with each other.
Sauve & Suvechha: Nothing, we share everything with each other. We do not think there is anything that we should not share with one another.”
Sadichha: My brother does not like sharing anything at all. He does not share his food. If you take a bite of an apple and give it to him, he will not eat it. He will not let you eat from his plate, so probably he is the one who does not like sharing. But in a more philosophical level I do not think there is anything that I would not share with them. If they want my time, if they want my attention I will give that to them. Maybe later in life if they want financial help, if I am capable, I will give it to them. But most importantly I think it is the time, love and attention that are required between siblings because you grow up together but there comes a certain time when you actually have to go away, start working, create your own family. We will all go separate ways but it is during those times I think it is really important for siblings to remember the love they shared while growing up and try to be there for each other no matter what.
Bhai Tika Special
Since the bhai tika is just around the corner and we had this beautiful sibling trio talking with us, how we could miss a chance to talk about bhaik tika. Bhai tika holds a lot of importance for many people in Nepal and they celebrate the festival following all the set rituals and traditions. Let us hear it from Sadichha, Suvechha and Sauve how important is bhai tika for them.
Importance of Bhai Tika
Sadichha: It is important, especially having grown up together. As I was not here for Dashain and Tihar for last two years, I missed it a lot but they sent me photos and all of that so this year I am really excited about Bhai Tika. The whole thing about Bhai Tika is brothers protecting their sisters but I think it goes both ways. My love for my brother and sister is equal. The way I protect her, I will protect him also, and I think that is also the way he thinks. He would not mind us being there as guardians after our parents, and whenever needed he would also step up and act as a brother and join us whenever required.
Sauve: For me it is very important now especially because Sadichha di is here in Nepal. For the past few years she had been away from us. It was not that often that I talked to her because she was busy with her studies but on this special day I always made sure that we talked and interacted with each other.
Suvechha: This year it is important because as an elder sister Sadichha di used to do all the poojas and I would just stand behind her and suddenly she was not there and I had to do everything which was very hard. So I think this year it is going to be very interesting as I do not need to do anything, back again to the way things were before.
Gifts during Bhai Tika
Suvechha: Every time he gives us money. I think it is good that he gives money that he gets in Dashain after adding in a little more to it; it makes the gift really precious.
Sauve: I give money whereas they give me gifts. And the best gift that I received so far is the two kgs of kaju barfi and I loved it and still do. Well I enjoyed the kaju barfi for one whole week. It now a culture for sisters to give gifts and brothers return that with money and that is what we have been following. When I grow older and have my own income, I will give a bigger amount.
The whole thing of bhai tika is brothers protecting their sisters but I think it is the both ways.
Message for Bhai Tika
Sadichha: Starting with my sister I would like to tell her that I really love her and I will always be there for her no matter what and that she does not have to fulfill anyone’s expectations. She can be whoever she wants to be and as an elder sister I will always be there.
And to my brother I would like to say that I am really happy to see the man that he is becoming but I also want him to now start taking responsibility for not just himself but also our parents. No matter how hard we try, we the daughters are going to go away one day or the other so he should understand that he is the one who ultimately has to look after our parents the most, take care of them, and respect them. He should now realize that he is the one who will have to take care of the family in the future.
Suvechha: I love you both very much.
Sauve: Finally after two years I can finally have a complete Bhai Tika this year. So I am looking forward to it.