How comfortable are we with our kid's emotions? As parents, we often have a hard time accepting emotional responses from our children. It is precise because that is what we have learnt growing up. People around us had a hard time tackling all our emotion

So every time our children are sad, crying, or angry, we want them to stop feeling those emotions, but why? Most of these emotions arise when children are unhappy with the way things are around them. Especially when we stop or limit them. 

 

Now and then, we need and want to set boundaries for our children, but are we comfortable enough to accept and validate the responses or reactions they have to those boundaries.

 

We can't have it both ways, that we limit them but at the same time expect them to not express their discontent over it. Children have their perspectives and emotions. We need to be open and willing to accept it. This act from our end is necessary to raise secure, confident, emotionally resilient and happy children. 

 

Recap to when you wanted something and couldn't get it. How did it feel? What did you feel like doing? Were you upset? Did you cry, yell or fight about it?

 

It is how our children feel a lot of times. Something that may seem trivial or petty could be the most important thing for them. They feel these same emotions that we do, maybe to the same or greater degree.

 

So instead of always taking them out of the situation or discarding their feelings, we could help them express and feel. 

 

There are numerous ways that we, as parents, use to distract our children from feeling their feelings. When our children are young, we start with the easiest. I believe this is the favourite for most parents. 

Distraction-It usually works, making our babies joyful without leaving us any consequences. Why wouldn't it be the go-to for any parent! It happens without any mess. It works well if you can master that smoothness. Nothing can ever be too good. This method also comes with an expiry date. It works only until your child is a couple of years old, and then you have to go back to dealing with their emotions and figure out another way out until that doesn't work anymore. 

Why are we always looking for solutions to figure out how to stop our children from feeling their emotions? Instead, we should be helping them understand their feelings and learn to manage them healthily. We should give them enough time to gain that skill. It may just be one of the essential abilities our children will learn over the years.