Teens and parents often face difficulties in understanding each other. The reorganization of the bond seems to happen with the gradual change of time, with more maturity in a teen and the loosely bound restrictions from parents. Is the generation gap crea

My mother and I are now friends and I wonder why I could not say it 4 years back. I was always scared of my parents, but that's the same case for every teenager with strict parents, right? The wall of fear that only gets higher with the entrance of a child into a teenager creates a big emotional distance between parents and children. "You are laughing too much, crying too much, you are talking too much, for god sake stop talking”, seriously how many of us have heard this while growing up, especially in our teenage years? In my case, I have lost count but it was almost daily. Is it the age gap that creates the distance? Probably yes! But how come the bond gets stronger and friendlier over a few years and everything becomes comprehensible? 

With the change of time, the parent-child relationship often seems to change. As soon as we enter our twenties, the bond slowly starts getting better and stronger. More freedom is allowed, we are not asked about a plan of action every hour and the opinions are given more priority. The personal space gets more space and they automatically start trusting the children. If it is to be analyzed, maybe the fact that teens are incapable of making concrete decisions and immaturity might have caused the parents to be more possessive and conservative. Nevertheless, if the main concern is to make sure that their children, not in any way divert their focus into the wrong deeds, is restricting and building up the wall of fear the best way to protect them? Has anyone tried being friendly to a teen child creatinine to make a comfortable space where he/she can share his/her actual feelings and be able to show vulnerabilities? Not to mention but parenting is not easy that must be one of the riskiest roles one has to fulfill. No doubt, every parent in the entire world wants the best for their children. And sometimes, it might be overwhelming to have the responsibility of such a naïve individual, and the pressure to provide them the best must be on the next level. If we are to remember our days of teenage, not many of us would be happy to recall the way we reciprocated to our parents, all the fights for such pointless matters, being rude to them and what not! Equation changes with people. I guess that’s the same with our parents as well. When different individuals with different opinions and ideologies are staying under the same roof, disagreements and differences are expected. 

It’s strange how within a few years, everything changes, and now everything that they say makes sense to us. One minute, the talk is about the financial situation and the next minute it’s about apples. The bond of parent-child is always precious and no amount of misunderstandings or age gap can ever come between the love they have for each other. Teenagers are in the phase of exploring and understanding themselves. They do not have anything figured out and honestly, that’s okay. However, the same blurry vision to life might frustrate most of them but with the entrance in the twenties, we kind of have a frame of ourselves. We start walking in our trails as we want and have a sense of existence, which makes it easier to welcome parents’ opinions and to hear them which ultimately improves the bond. 

Overprotection is a risk factor for childhood anxiety.” Parenting is not the same for everyone and it is not easy. The emotional clash between parent-child only distances them, especially if the child is a teenager. The concern of a parent towards the child is understandable. When in disparity, the way of dealing with each other creates a whole disturbance in their relationship. However, with the entrance into the twenties, it feels everything is falling back into place and a little bit of freedom from parents and a little bit of maturity starts fixing the cracked bond.