Father – Every Daughter’s First Love
Suresh Paudel is no new name in Nepal’s media field. Some of media organizations where he has worked as: Nepal Television as a presenter/producer; Kantipur Television as a chief program producer, and a face of Kantipur Aaja; and recently the first HD Cha
He also shared with us the moment when he first saw his daughter. During his wife’s delivery he was not in Nepal. Only six days after delivery he got to meet his little one. He shares, “I still remember the day when I first held her in my arms. I do not know what went wrong, but when I held her she started crying. That moment was painful. I went in a corner and shed a few tears myself.” He also added that the first time when he saw Aarya take her first walk was an emotional moment and holds this memory close to his heart. Read on more to find out all about this cute father–daughter duo.
How would you define your relationship?
Suresh: Our relationship is pure and genuine, I would say. We never feel the need to hide anything from one another. There is transparency between us. We are more like friends, to be honest. Like we said earlier, there is transparency between us, and we don’t hide anything from each other. Friends do that, don’t they?
Daughters are said to be pampered more by their father. What do you have to say about this? Is she a papa’s pampered princess?
Suresh: It depends, really. Well, we make sure that she gets everything she needs and of course, we shower her with lots of love. In that case, she is pampered equally by both her parents as she is our only child.
As she is in her puberty stage, how protective are you for her?
Suresh: She actually is a mature child. I trust her but as a father, like every father, I must be protective to some extent. I make sure that wherever she goes, she has her cell phone with her and she informs me when she has reached her destination safely. Other than that, I really have not imposed strict rules on her since I trust her.
What do you two enjoy doing together?
Aarya: We enjoy having deep conversations, and we jam together occasionally as we both have keen interest in music. We play guitar and sing together.
I never take tiffin to office, so she keeps on telling me to take something to eat from home.
Three trait of your father you wish you had and why?
Aarya: I wish I was as level- headed as he is. He is very sensible and does not easily get angry, unlike me. He is a perfectionist. I wish to have this trait because he has eye for details and everything he does turns out to be great. And lastly, I wish I was a positive thinker like he is. Whenever I feel down or confused, he is always there to boost my will power and show me the brighter side of things which I can’t do myself. I have a hard time convincing myself.
Three things you want to do for your father
Aarya: I want to make him known by my name, gift him a studio with lots of musical instruments as he has always been passionate about music, and if I were to open any office or organization, it would be named after him since he has always supported me and I am very attached to him.
What is the best thing about one another?
Suresh: She is very caring, she is very conscious towards my health; I never take tiffin to office, so she keeps on telling me to take something to eat from home.
Aarya: He is very hardworking and fun-loving at the same time.
What is that one thing you dislike about one another?
Suresh: She gets drowned in emotions really fast and over small matters. Her every emotion translates into tears.
Aarya: He gets excited for things really quickly, way before the outcome!
What nine things should a father of a girl child know about raising her?
- I think it is important for every father to know that a girl child needs space. He shouldn’t go overboard with protectiveness.
- Trust should be built between both. A father should trust his daughter and vice versa.
- It is essential to be emotionally connected to a girl child so that she is not hesitant to share her problems with her father.
- A father should know that spending time with his daughter will help her grow mentally/emotionally.
- It is necessary for a father to tell a girl child her worth and that she’s capable of achieving anything in life.
- A father should know how his bad actions or words could make a huge impact in his daughter’s life.
- It is every father’s duty to tell his daughter how strong she is regardless of the fact that she is living in a world filled with misogyny.
- A father should always focus on his daughter’s achievements and motivate her to work harder in life to achieve her goals rather than putting greater emphasis on her physical appearance.
- A father should always assure his girl child that he is there to support her through thick and thin.