A way to bring Healthy Future.

Love and romance are the most obvious foundations for a successful relationship. The often overlooked but important part is the constant and deliberate effort required to nurture the relationship. By Malvika Biswas

I have been married for three and a half years, and my husband and I have a happy married life. That however does not mean that we are a perfect couple. We do dislike some of the habits of each other, and we do have arguments. But that is what makes our marriage spicy. I believe that too much sweetness is not good for health. Likewise, in a healthy and happy relationship, things do not have to be good all the time. The happy couples do not always have to be perfect couples, rather happy couples are the ones that who make mistakes, but fights back and overcome hurdles. And they create happy moments. Love is not the only requirement for a happy relationship; beyond that, in a real life we all want to feel special, appreciated, needed, and worthwhile. The list is quite long.

Here are a few suggestions that have helped me and my husband maintain a happy married life.

Communicate openly

Saying “I love you” all the time just for the sake of conversation does translate to a healthy conversation. A precise and clear communication is a key to a happy relationship. For this you should not hide your feelings. If an issue is kept in mind for long time it can take form of anger and expressed in ugly manner. Before it is too late, bring it on face, speak your mind. In order to foster your relationship you need to talk about your inner feelings. Be yourself and frank with your partner.

Remember the small things: I don’t like sharing my pillow, so if my husband does not forget which pillow to keep his head on, that’s a good thing. Remembering dates is one of the most difficult tasks in any relation, if our partner remembers important dates, it’s always a plus point. Show interest in the random things your partner is interested in. We often ignore small things in a relationship but it is the small things that make a huge difference. No matter how old your relationship is it is the small details that make us feel loved. Those little things can sometimes be more important than you realize.

Act silly together

I know I sound weird but believe me when I say this: I still play Tic–Tac–Toe, and Dots and Boxes with my husband. Sometimes, I and my husband act a bit immature: all of a sudden we start playing chase and catch; we tickle each other till the tears roll down our eyes; get into pillow fights; show funny faces to each other; and make fun of each other. I feel that being quirky together helps in keeping our relation interesting and fresh. In absence of such fun elements, a relation might be at a risk getting into a rut.

Say polite words

Be polite help us in building a happier relationship. Make a habit of appreciating your partner. Never think twice about saying “please,” ‘may I,” “you are welcome,” and “thank-you” and most importantly “I am sorry” to your partner. Do not be a pinch penny while appreciating and respecting your partner. And do not forget, it’s an absolute NO to a raised voice. Manner helps your partner to be comfortable with you, which leads to a healthy relationship.

Give surprise prize

Who does not like gifts? A present need not be flashy and expensive all the time. It is your gesture and thought that matters more than the price of that present. Getting your partner their favorite chocolate on your way back home, buying something little but thoughtful for them, going on a surprise dinner date even, after many years of marriage, giving each other a helping hand in the kitchen or household chores, all these little unexpected gifts will definitely help strengthen your relationship.

We asked some of the celebrity couples about their take on “happy relationship”, read on below to know a little more about their beautiful relationship, and their secrets behind that relationship.

Deeya Maskey & Anup Baral

Movie actresss Deeya Maskey and Anup Baral got married in 2014 and have been happily married for almost two and a half years now. The bond between the two is so strong that both of them had almost same answers to all my questions. Have a sneak peek of their strong and happy relationship.

Do you believe little celebrations groom a relation?

Yes of course. We do believe that little celebrations make a relationship stronger. We do not big parties, we rather like to celebrate among the family. Once in a blue moon we would revisit the places where we used to meet before we got married, and celebrate there.

 Who is more romantic in this relationship?

We both are equally romantic. We both like to give surprises to each other. There have been times when we have bumped into each other naively. Every small thing we do for each other make our relationship more romantic.

 Do you think that small arguments make relation stronger?

Well it depends upon the subject. What we think is, professional arguments help us groom relationship, whereas personal arguments are source of massive fights which can destroy a relationship.

 Share us with your happiest moment so far as a couple.

Once we shared the same screen as co-actors in a television series ‘Dalan’, which was the happiest moment so far for us as a couple.

 What is the secret mantra to happy relationship?

The secret mantra to a happy relation definitely includes love, trust, and understanding. On that foundation, you should gradually attempt to learn from each other.

Nima Rumba & Sheli Thapa

Acclaimed musician Nima Rumba and Sheli Thapa (Rumba) have been married for 21 years. They tied the knot in year 1995. But their relation does not look even a tiny bit old. They appear all happy and fresh just like a newly married couple.

Who is more romantic in your relation?

Nima: Sheli comes from a family where they value their culture a lot, whereas I am quite opposite, I am easygoing plus age wise as well I am elder to her so I can easily express my love. Sheli is extremely romantic too, but being a Nepali woman she is a bit reluctant to express her feelings.

 Do you believe little celebrations groom a relation?

Nima: I do believe that to be true. We never miss a chance to rejoice every little occasion. Sometimes when we are busy and can’t have a huge celebration, Sheli would definitely arrange a small house party to celebrate those occasions. And Sheli is very wonderful cook which I think it is very important in any relation.

 What is the best thing that your spouse has done for you?

Nima: She married me; for me that is the best thing ever. At the time when I was in need of a support pillar she came into my life for which I am really very grateful. I believe her ingress in to my life has brought more success into my career.

 What is the secret mantra to happy relationship?

Nima: Understanding is a must, and after that forgiveness. One should also mentally, physically and spiritually fit, and realize ones responsibility to take care for each other.

 Does Nima help you in your shopping?

Sheli: You will not believe this. Right from clothes in my wardrobes perfumes, makeups, and almost everything except for traditional attire, are all bought by Nima. Not only this, he even does shopping for our kids.

 Has Nima ever helped you with your household chores?

Sheli: Be it grocery shopping, vegetable cutting or looking after kids he has helped me with all these chores. When our kids were small he would change their nappies, feed them, bathe them, and he enjoyed doing all these. When he was not at home it was quite difficult for me to look after the kids.

 What is the best thing that your spouse has done for you?

Sheli: There are so many, but to be specific, we are blessed with two sons which I think is my best reward.