The stunning and ravishing looking Melina Manandhar shares us the bond that she has with her beautiful daughter Meliska. Also read further to know why Melina Manandhar always wanted a girl child in her life.

For many women, becoming a mother is one of life’s goals. For them being a mother is the most rewarding and powerful thing. There is no doubt that a mother is the closest person to any child and it is for sure that no one could be as frank as a mother could be to her child, be it son or a daughter. But in my personal experiences I have witnessed that there is something special about the mother–daughter relationship.

The mother and daughter bond influences our lives in ways we may not even realize. The relationship between a mother and her daughter is so powerful, it affects everything from the daughter’s health and self–esteem to all her other relationships. Despite occasional conflicts and complicated emotions, the mother–daughter relationship is in the majority of cases a beautiful and strong bond.

The beautiful Melina Manandhar is an actress and a producer. She is the cynosure of all eyes as she looks ethereal in all her movies. She has worked in Kollywood, Newari films, television serials, music videos and commercials as well.  Melina made her acting debut with the movie Priyasi that was well received in the Nepali film industry. She is counted as one of the popular and talented actresses in Nepal. She has appeared in several commercial successes such as Feri Arko Saino, Daijo, Mamaghar and many more. Her appearance in ‘Pani pani bhayo mero mann pani’ by Nalina Chitrakar was hugely appreciated.

This talented actress tied the knot with Mukesh Dhakal in 2008, and the couple is now blessed with a beautiful daughter, Meliska.  In this issue Melina has shared with us the adorable bond that she has with her daughter.

Meliska was a Dream Child

Initially I did not wished to get married, but prior to my wedding I always used to think that if I ever had a baby of my own I wish it was a baby girl. During my pregnancy I wanted to know if I was going to have a baby girl or boy. Somewhere inside, I knew that I was going to conceive a baby girl. I had that intuition and feeling. For me, the feeling of having a baby of my own was just out of the world. On top of that conceiving a baby girl was like a dream come true as I always wanted a daughter.

The First Touch

As I mentioned earlier, I always wanted a daughter and actually got one but the first time when I held her in my arms I had a different feeling. I do not know how to describe that feeling as it is inexpressible. Strangely, I wasn’t overwhelmed with a flood of happy emotions when I held my child for first time, but rather, a sense of vacuity. Maybe it was because I had just felt the most excruciating pain. It took a while for me to sink with her, because I honestly did not feel the connection with my baby right away. As time flows you get to know your little one and your bond gets stronger day after day. It is actually a gradual process. There is no comparison to any other relationship.

Terrified of Normal Delivery

During my pregnancy I was always terrified. Once I got pregnant I knew one day or the other I have to give birth to a child and that imagination and feeling of going into labor and giving a normal birth scared me a lot. This fear was there inside me since long time back, even before I got married. God showed me some mercy; I did not have to go through labor, I had a C–section instead. I was like ‘Thank God’ but again having said all this, if I had a choice then, I would have liked to go for a normal delivery.

No Idea about Cesarean

Due to some medical conditions I had to go through a C – Section. But at that time I had no idea how it was going to be like. It is true that you will not feel any pain during the C – Section, but once the anesthesia stops working in your body, the pain that you start feeling is immense. Though I did not go through a labor, I have seen other pregnant women screaming and shouting in pain during my sister’s delivery. Hence, I can guess that if I too had given a normal delivery, the pain would have been comparatively equal to the pain that I had after the cesarean which was extreme and lasted for quite a few days. I had no idea how it was going to be. But only when I was injected with anesthesia on my back, did I realize what the cesarean would be like (laughs out loud).

Daughter  but more of a Friend

We are very much like friends to each other. Her school bus returns at 3:15 pm, or at the latest by 3:30pm. When the time comes closer I start getting restless. I get so anxious to see her that I look at the every two minutes. We have a very special bond with each other, but she obeys her father more than me. She does whatever her father asks her to do. She is very shy even in front of her father. She is so reluctant to talk to her father that we need to entice her to talk with him. She is open with very limited number of people.

Always Wanted a Daughter

As I stated previously, I was someone who never thought of getting married but always wanted to have daughter. And I have a reason for that. Just like what I am for my mother, I too wanted someone to care about me. What I feel is that daughters are a beautiful gift to any family. The care and love that a daughter has for her mother, father and house is incomparable. I am always worried about my mother, her health and everything but comparatively there are fewer sons who think that way. So I always wanted a daughter. Having a girl child is a boon to any family and I think everyone should be blessed with a daughter.

“I wasn’t overwhelmed with a flood of happy emotions when I held my child for first time, but rather, a sense of vacuity, may be it was because I felt the most excruciating pain.”

 

Mamu-Chori moment

What do you two enjoy doing when together?

Melina: Nothing in particular but even when I am busy and I’ve work to do I just feel like sitting with her all the time, and she too has mutual feelings.

Are you protective about her?

Melina: When we are at home but not together in the same room I am again always thinking about her. Every another minute I call her and ask if she is okay or not. I call her out so many times that at times it annoys her. I think I am over protective and her father too tells me the same. Since, she is growing up now, I am trying to control myself.

Is there any not so good trait of her?

Melina: (Looking at her daughter she says that her daughter has no such traits and laugh out loud. But after taking permission from her daughter, she discloses one). If she is busy with her homework or is playing games, no matter how much I call her she does not respond and that thing annoys me.

Who looks after her in your absence?

Melina: Whenever I have a shoot I call my mother and she also has her two cousin brothers to look after her. But I try my best to wrap up the shoot as soon as possible to be with her. She starts searching for me if I am late.  If my phone rings during a shoot, I do not even need to look at the phone because I know that it is her. She keeps on nagging me and asks me to come home sooner.

How much do you help her with her homework?

She needs full help while doing her homework (laughs). She does go for tuition, but I too need to help her.

Since you are in film industry has she watched your movie?

She hunts her father’s movies and watches them, but it was only recently that she watched my first movie Priyasi and she was laughing while watching it. The truth is that she enjoys all her father’s movies. She even knows the dialogues and songs by heart. She even makes her cousins sit down and watch her father’s movies.