An interview with Nischal Basnet and Swastima Khadka about the ups and downs in their relationship and how they handle them.

The ups and downs are common in any relationship. Through these ups and down you know your spouse’s flaws, strengths and weaknesses.  It is often during the ‘downs’, the real strength of the relationships is measured, and also determines their love, and commitment towards each other. If the couples stick together through the difficult times, the relationship becomes stronger and meaningful.Nischal Basnet and Swastima khadka share their thoughts in an interview on the ‘ups and downs’ in their relationship and how they handle them. Nichal Basnet and Swastima Khadka married on February 17, 2016.

How often do you guys quarrel? Have there been any huge fights between you two?

Nischal: Just yesterday (laughs). No huge fights but small quarrels every now and then
Swastima: We don’t have huge fights, but arguments and disagreements. Like there are things that he says to which I disagree to and things I say which he disagrees which then leads to small quarrels.

What are the basic reasons for these quarrels? Who is at wrong the most?

Swastima points at Nischal
N: Only me!! (laughs) There are usually small and are stupid reasons. For example when I ask her to have dinner and she refuses, this makes a little anxious.  I feel as if my asking or my suggestions have no value to her and that makes me little angry.

 S: Usually no one is at fault. We discuss over very small issues so it really does not matter who is wrong or who has made a mistake.

Have you ever asked him to sleep on the couch?

S: (laughs) No.
N: She does not need to. If I see her upset, I go to the couch to sleep without her telling me.

What is the difference between the fights before you got married and after?

S: Well before marriage, we were in the phase of knowing each other and showing our best sides, so there were less fights.  But now after marriage we together all time, so make up after the quarrel is much easier. 

Who apologizes more?

N: (looking at Swastima) Who apologizes more often?
S: I do not! (laughs). I apoligise to him to “man rakhna.” But I wish he would apologize so that I don’t have to admit my mistake.

Any fights regarding financial issue?

N: Well my expenses are almost the same as before. But after marriage I do have the feeling of the need of backup so I have tried to cut back my expenses. And I think this feeling is natural. And we both earn so there are no issue relating this.
S: Like he said, we earn individually so there are no issues or fights regarding money.