Accepting defeats and moving on with lessons is something to learn. If you are a parent, you have to be very careful when your child comes across with failures. How do you deal with it?

Along with growth, a child is changing, learning, and experiencing new things every day. They join a school, and of course, not everyone excels in studies, sports or dance. They see their friends getting medals, doing good in academics, having passion, and having goals. On the contrary, your child is there trying the best and yet dealing with the failures. Now, what can you do? Is it your fault? How to motivate your child when they fail?

 We talked with a few parents about their strategies for motivating their children.

"It is easy for a child to get demotivated. If she does not get A+, she cries her eyes out. It might sound funny, but we get Ice cream. I want her to know that until she is giving her best, the results don't matter. The best that parents can do is be there and inspire them. If you inspire them, they will get motivated."-Suman Lawati.

"Stop giving them a motivational speech. I used to guide my son to do this and that. I would tell the stories of my struggles which only pressurized him. I have learned that just being there for him works well. When he comes with his frowned face, I tell him to do better the next time. He has learned to embrace his failure and grind harder."-Anjali Shakya. 

 "I help him focus on positive aspects of everything. Failure is a learning experience. If you don't win, you learn. And that is what I want him to understand."–Shresha Amatya.

"Failing is not acceptable in our house. Do not attempt it or win it. Once, she got a B on his exam. Since then, I cut my daughter's social media time and sent her to tuition, and she got an A. If you tell your child that it is okay to fail, she will never push herself."-Meera Lama. 

Yes, motivation should come from yourself. However, it might not be the same case for children. Some kids are less motivated to be doing things that they need to. Parents play a role in children understand how to take failures. Letting them fail can backfire as they might start taking success/failures lightly. If your child is trying and still not succeeding, you might have to find some ways to motivate them instead of making them feel worthless.